QotD: Gift From A Parent
What gift from a parent do you remember the most?
Submitted by jorge456.
The gift from a parent I remember the most is from my mom.....and it was the gift of life.
When my mom was pregnant with my brother, who is 6 years old than me and her 3rd child, the doctors told her that her pregnancy was iffy and she definitely could not have any more children after this one. The reason being that she had kidney disease and her kidneys could only take so much. Luckily my brother, although born a preemie, was born ok.
Although they deny it, I know that my mom getting pregnant with me was an accident. Due to her health and the large age gap between me and my siblings, I know this is so.
And when my mom got pregnant with me, the doctors told her that this pregnancy was too dangerous and that she should abort. In fact, they did more that suggest....they tried to insist and convince her to abort. Medicine has improved much since then and this would not be recommended these days. But back then, not so. They told her that either her or I would die...or it possibly both of us would not make it through this. She basically told them to go f*ck themselves (in a nice Catholic kind of way:)) and said that she was going through with this no matter what.
In taking on her pregnancy with me, despite her health condition, she commited to being under constant supervision. She saw the doctor every week during the first 2 trimesters and then daily during the last trimester. The doctors also took no chances on her naturally going into labour and told her to pick a day for them to induce labour. Ha! Not many mothers get to choose their kid's birthday! :)
Suffice to say, the doctors were wrong and we both made it through with flying colours.
And when I was born, and knowing her poor health, my mom asked God to let her live to see my 16th birthday. He one-upped her and she was alive to see me turn 31.
My birthdays are the day I miss her the most. She is the only person who never ever forgot my birthday...and there is no way a mother could forget since its a big day for her too. I miss my mom's birthday calls and her fondly talking about the day that was "just you and me kiddo' .
Yep...definitely the best gift.
* and for the record, this was a 5 tissue post
Comments
beautiful post Dee...absolutely beautiful!!
I lost my Mom (thru kidney disease as well) and the anniversary of her passing (although it was 10 years ago) still makes me "schmoopy" too. Your post definitely hit my soft spot...BIG TIME!!
Hugssss (just cuz)
Thanks Marie! Wow....we have more in common....how weird! I know it was a while ago, but I am very sorry to hear about your mom.
My mom passed 6 years ago. I get a bit schmoopy around this time of year which is the anniversary of her passing and also her birthday. She died the day before her birthday. I also get schmoopy around my birthday, too.
BUT I am extra schmoopy this year around this time because I was helping my dad clean out a bunch of my mom's things last week. (he is finally getting to at the point where he is ready to let go of these things) It was a whole day up to my eyeballs in my mom's stuff which got me thinking a lot about her, more than usual. I miss her...but I also get sad when I think of all the family stuff she has missed that I know she would have loved.
thanks for the hugs! here are some back at ya... ((((((((big hugs)))))))))))))
this is a very touching story.
thanks LD! :) haha...yes, there would be no one to make you laugh through seminars....and snort when you are supposed to be quiet.....and help you pick out that perfect headboard!!!! muhahaha! :) Your world is soooooo much better with me in it!
thanks, Blackdress! I am so sorry to hear you lost your Mum when you were so young. That must have been tough growing up without a Mum around.
I have to admit I chuckled at your statement: theres no one else like your mother, is there? ....and I laughed because I know it was about mothers in general....but it made me think that there was no one like MY mother! :)
My mother, personally, drove me crazy-coo-coo for most of my life. I have always been closer to my Dad. My mom wasn't very maternal, except for the birthday thing, when I was sick, and whenever I got my heart broken. But I did learn a lot from her and would love to still have her around to keep driving me crazy coo-coo! :)
Your Mum definatly stands testiment to the fact that if you want to do something badly enough and you know its right for you, there is nothing in the world anyone can do to stop you. Good for her too!
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haha! Don't get me wrong....my mom wasn't a bad person but she has a hard time as mother because of stuff from her own upbringing. She loved us but it was hard for her. I stopped being down on her as mother when I realized that she didn't have any examples from her life that taught or showed her as a young mother. It took me 30 years to realize that....but I finally got it. She was mellowing as she got older and she LOVED being a grandma, which she was instantly good at!
And sure...go ahead....add away! :)